Posted by on Jun 30, 2011 in Relationships and Sex | 0 comments


This time, from my inbox.

Q. How much time should two people in a relationship spend together?

A.I think when you’re crazy in love with someone you want to spend every waking moment with them, but you pace yourself, because you don’t want to look obsessed. And you create silly rules like: since we’ve been dating for a couple months now I think it’s appropriate we spend one weekday night and one weekend night together. But it rarely works out that way. Things usually end up moving way too slow, and you get impatient, and break up, or they move way too fast, and suddenly you’re living together. And for months it’s like fucking bliss because you’re playing house with the person you’re crazy in love with, and spending all this time with, and you want to fuck all the time, so you do, and life couldn’t be better. And then a couple years go by and all these realities set in, and you find yourself spending less time together, and more time with your friends, until one day you wake up and realize you’re not living with the person you’re crazy in love with anymore, you’re living with a roommate. And you go through a painful break up, because it’s always harder to break up, especially when you’re living together. Or, you get your head out of your ass and realize you don’t want to lose the good thing you’ve got, and you want back the crazy-in-love feeling that you once had, or at least something close, and that’s not going to happen if you’re spending more time with your friends, or at work, or shopping, or at the gym, or with your favorite vice, or alone, and less time with your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/partner/lover.