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Confession
February 2, 2012
Almost exactly a year later to the date I’m looking at this confession I recorded for a TV show that never came to be, wondering what has really changed. In a lot of ways, me and hubbie are still in the exact same position, not sure where our relationship is heading, uncertain about our careers; me still trying to figure out whether I’m cut out for monogamy, he, still appalled at the notion of alternative lifestyles.
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To forgive, or not to forgive.
January 31, 2012
In dealing with the life experiences of friends, lovers, ex-lovers, and my sometimes charmingly bitter self, I’ve found that nothing puts grey hairs on the head (and a grudge in the heart) quite like infidelity. Even the suspicion of infidelity can take your relationship from we-just-made-love-on-the-virgin-white-Nassau-sand to you-can-keep-your-stinking-engagement-ring.
There are a myriad of reasons why cheating happens, and it’s rarely “because I hate you so much and just want you to have a hopelessly miserable life” (unless you’re vindictively trying to get back at your ex…for cheating on you). Most of the time, the psychology behind cheating is much more complex than that. Often, the reason has little or nothing to do with the person afflicted. Yet this particular wrongdoing feels about as personal as personal gets.
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Amazon Initiative
January 28, 2012
As I dive into the next round of edits for Book 3, the Summer Season, I need your help. Along with the new book is a whole new way of doing business for Sex, Life, & Hannah. I am no longer going to be wearing ten different hats. Mostly because I’ve learned a lot over the last six years about book publishing; what works and what doesn’t work, but also because I want to be able to focus on writing and getting the word out about the books, instead of printers, distribution, and shipping.
The launch of the third book in the SLH series is actually going to be the re-launch of the first two books as well through Amazon’s CreateSpace. This is going to make Sex, Life, & Hannah available globally, in print and digital format, and ease many of my day-to-day administrative woes.
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Hacked.
January 25, 2012
So…in case you didn’t notice, portions of the Sex, Life, & Hannah website kind of disappeared on Sunday and Monday. Yup, I got hacked.
Panic set it. Had I backed up any of the content that was missing? Probably not. And how long would it take for me to recreate about 15 pages worth of content…and all those links, and pictures, and videos?
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Bumps and Beachy Hair
January 23, 2012
From the upcoming SLH Summer Season:
I ask Lola where the bathroom is located. She tells me straight back, and to the right. Christian gives me a gentle peck on the lips, tells me not to be long, and I meander away.
Even though I’ve followed Lola’s instructions, I open the door, to what is not the bathroom, and instead find Clark and Chopper, and…Bill, I think, except now he has long hair, and Celeste’s new-old boyfriend snorting coke off a low table, “ummm, what’s going on in here?”
“Beautiful angel,” Clark looks up and turns to me, “we found some left-over coke in Deirdre’s room—“
Chopper looks at me, “Can you believe she almost pawned my bike off for coke, when all along she had a bag of it stashed under her bed!“
“Along with a great collection of hair pieces,” Bill brushes a strand of hair back from his eyes.
“Have you met Alan?” Clark pulls Alan away from the counter. “He’s your friend Celeste’s boyfriend—”
I nod, because Clark obviously doesn’t remember that it was me that introduced Alan and Celeste to everyone when they first walked in.
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Do Not Be This Girl
January 19, 2012
OMG. Where do I even begin? Thank god my relationship is way more honest, thank god we never had a wedding, thank god my husband inspires me to follow my heart…thank god I still have a life.
Thank god I am not this girl, even though I have had moments of being this girl, and I completely blame society, family, and media for this, because we are never taught to just enjoy relationships for what they are, which could be a hot two-month affair, or a baby-daddy arrangement, or twenty years of friendship. We’re only taught how to evaluate whether they’re ripe for marriage or not, and if not, to move on, because god help us if we get stuck in a relationship without the potential of reaching that one goal we should all be aiming for, because it’s the only achievement that is ever going to make us really…happy.
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January Must Have: Lustlist
January 17, 2012
I know lust is one of the seven deadly sins, but sometimes it feels good to lust, because it gives you reason to motivate, and make a list, and save accordingly, so you can get a select few items that you know will help make you feel sexy in 2012, in just the right way.
This is my lustlist:
Beso Beso Alas Earrings
Girl On A Motorcycle Vivienne Clutch at Telltale Vintage
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Virginity…Round Two.
January 13, 2012
So, you bit the bullet. You called it quits on your relationship, before the holidays. Good on you. You are the 73 percent.
And now that the box of liqueur chocolates has been scarfed, and your mother’s “not ALL spinsters are unhappy” wisdom has been prescribed, and your married friends’ Christmas cards have smoldered in your fireplace, it’s time to muster up some self-respect and think about dating again.
Unfortunately, you know it’s not as easy as slipping into a tight black number and shouting: Come and get me, boys! It’s been awhile—perhaps a few years—and your game isn’t quite as tight as the Versace in the back of your closet.
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The Benefits of a Pre-Holiday Break-Up
January 11, 2012
photo: 1×43’s BlogIf you didn’t do what Katy Perry did before the holidays you’re either selfish or on the fence, and definitely not one of the 73 percent that think you should have done it already, and while I understand, here are five reasons why it would have been better to break up with them before the holidays.
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A Trip to Vegas
January 9, 2012
The sun is beating down on my car, and the AC is pumping. I’m drinking coffee out of my travel mug, and Holly is drinking the vodka and OJ we bought at a convenience store, out of the extra travel mug I gave her. We’re forty-eight miles into our trip to Vegas.
Holly takes a sip out of her travel mug, “do you love him?”
I take a sip out of my travel mug, “of course.”
Holly adjusts the AC, “good, because Mom thinks you’re on the rebound from what’s-his-name.”
I scoff at my mother thinking she knows anything about my life, considering every time I try to tell her anything she puts her own spin on it as if she hasn’t heard a word I said.
“When did you talk to mom?” Holly doesn’t just call my parents out of the blue to catch up. They have a strained relationship at best, so she only calls them when she wants something.
“A couple days ago, I wanted Aunt Helen’s number.”
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Things gone missing
January 6, 2012
This morning, I received this response in my inbox regarding Wednesday’s post from Dr. Sex:
That was the best advice I’ve read about ANYTHING, in a long fucking time! Awesome and so, so, SO TRUE!
I do know this about myself. My desire for women usually comes when I’m feeling unfulfilled with men, but I’m pretty darned sure it’s more about me. Being with women makes me feel powerful in a different way than when I’m with men. I know I’m made to get a man off, but to get a woman off requires more, a lot more. I’m sure there’s deep-seated stuff there that I may never recognize, but at least now I know it’s more than just a sex thing.
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After the Kink
January 4, 2012
photo: Kiki de Montparnasse in W MagazineBack in July, I asked Dr. Sex for ideas about spicing up a long-term relationship. He suggested everything from sex toys to kink. I responded with this, and made him dig a little deeper:
Q. Sex toys, kink, role play, all sound like the right stuff…but…what about the couple that has explored all the kink and porn their relationship can handle? What if they’ve already done it all; gone to the extreme, even had a threesome?
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It’s A New Dawn
January 2, 2012
Birds flying high, you know how I feel
Sun in the sky, you know how I feel
Breeze driftin’ on by, you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life for me
And I’m feeling good
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New Year’s Resolutions for 2012
December 30, 2011
photo: thank you to my good friend Big T for sharing this image:)
I was going to do a lot more writing this week, and blogging, but somehow, between still dealing with the famdamnily being in town, and getting a nasty stomach flu neither of the above got accomplished.
So…I guess I only have time for one last post this year: New Year’s Resolutions. But first, a look at my last year’s resolutions, and how I did.
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Christmas Week 2011
December 23, 2011
Photo credits: http://sexlifeandhannah.tumblr.com/
It’s been a challenging week. Everything from the blow up over the offer on the house, to the continued drama over my sister’s behavior and lifestyle, to the critical assessments over why me and hubbie aren’t further ahead, to my parent’s status quo bickering over everything. I just want to scream: Why can’t we all just ever get along?!?!?
But I’m not going to. I’ve done enough screaming already. Instead I’m going to do what I always do, pick up the pieces and move on. See the good instead of the bad, glass half full not empty kind of thing, and love my family, even though they can be extremely challenging at times.
Unconditional love is a bitch sometimes. Merry Christmas.