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Happy Holidays!

Posted by on Dec 22, 2014 in Life and Style | 0 comments

Another year is winding down and while it’s been sobering and challenging in many ways, there has been forward momentum and much to be grateful for. I finally got The Need done. I finally got an agent. I got to spend a month in Europe, exploring, visiting family I hadn’t seen in too long, and writing. I was healthy. I was loved. And I finally started work on the fourth and final book in the Sex, Life, & Hannah series. You can’t always get what you want, but hopefully every year you get a little something that you need. On that note, and after seeing so many fun video cards float around on Facebook this year, I couldn’t resist and decided to spend this past Friday afternoon effing off and casting some of my favorite Hollywood A-listers as Hannah’s lovers in a scene straight out of Sex, Life, & Hannah…well, a scene soon to be written.

Stay safe, stay warm, stay optimistic, and happy holidays, lovers.

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Life since July

Posted by on Nov 18, 2014 in Life and Style | 0 comments

2014 Collage

A lot has happened since I wrote my last post, and specifically since July. There was of course my first Romance Writer’s of America (RWA) Conference in San Antonio, Texas, where I wowed several agents and editors into considering The Need for acquisition, got to hang out with some very cool authors like Shoshanna Evers, and yes, I saw the Alamo. I also noticed on the map that Austin was only an hour away, so after the conference I jetted up to visit with one of my dearest friends and made some new friends all while learning how to two-step in the 95-degree humidity. Then it was home (sort of) for a ridiculous amount of back and forth trips to Phoenix for a client where I got on a first name basis with much of the staff at the W and Phoenician. The corporate world has its perks…

I tried like a bat outta hell to be done with my new adult, lesbian, erotic thriller (can you say that ten times faster?) prior to departing for Europe in September. But this last revision tested my prowess as a writer like never before. I was nearly two years into perfecting this tale of two woman that fall in love while fighting to stay alive and I still had to take my work with me on vacation.

I’m not complaining.

Going to Europe as a 37 year old woman was a lot different than going ten years earlier. I wasn’t as enamored with finding the trendiest bars or the hottest beaches in Ibiza. Searching for yoga studios and vegan restaurants in Poland and Prague was far more rewarding than searching for underground parties. Clubbing ’til 6AM only to deal with a three-day hangover was replaced with jogs around castles and through parks and finding small cafés so I could write, drink espresso, and eat small baguettes with thinly sliced prosciutto and Mozzarella…

I got The Need done.

The day before my birthday and departure to the Czech Republic I put the finishing touches on that last chapter and those last few words, and I was able to escape with my lover, who decided to show up for my birthday (appropriately), to the city of some of the most amazing Gothic architecture I have ever seen. I celebrated the doubly momentous occasion by attending not one, but two, operas! Adult life has completely swept this woman. Of course, as challenging as it was to finish this manuscript in a way that keeps it edgy, dark, and controversial, but still has the promise of commercial viability, I know the greatest challenges lie ahead.

I’ve already sent the manuscript off to the three agents and three editors that requested it at RWA. As of today, I already have one offer for representation. This means more opportunities, but less control and working with a bigger team, and trusting that they know a thing or more than I do, and taking even more time to get my book out to the public when I consider it birthed and ready to go. I’m excited and nervous and I know I need to try something different, yet still wonder if I couldn’t do it better on my own, especially with all the lessons learned over the last nine years. And what if somewhere along this ride I make a mistake or they make a mistake? And that check engine light in the Porsche doesn’t go off in the next four weeks?

Life requires you take leaps of faith.

 

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An Abstract View of New York

An Abstract View of New York

Posted by on Nov 27, 2013 in Life and Style | 0 comments

I used to travel to New York City a lot. I was working in Syracuse and every weekend would set off to one of the many big city destinations within a four-hour drive. New York City was my favorite. There was something about the pulse of the streets, and the diversity of the people, or maybe it was just being in my twenties, single, and open to just about any adventure. I’d stumbled into so many parties, events, conversations, romantic escapades, and lusty flings. It was like the energy of the city could do me no wrong.

Fond memories never fade fast. They only seem to overtake you like a burden, a call to try to relive…of course, it’s impossible. Nothing stays the same; not you, not the cities. Or maybe the cities stay the same, but your view becomes layered with so much time and experience that it all ends up blending into an abstract image.

I learned a lot about myself during last week’s visit to New York City. It had been years, and it was as if the city was calling to me, or maybe it was just the lure of a cheap flight, and even cheaper accommodations, but I don’t want to turn into one of those jaded folk I used to write about in my journals. The older men with just a touch of grey in their hair, and a lot more sarcasm in their voices whenever the subject of relationships was breached.

But there I was. In some warehouse in Brooklyn, at 3AM, getting irritated at the “kids” bumping into me as they tried to dance to techno music that was far too loud to hold even a semblance of a conversation with anyone, thinking: This is so not me anymore. And maybe it never was. I don’t remember dance parties going down like this. Or maybe I was just lucky back then. Maybe I knew different people and different venues that had a much better vibe.

The next day I walked around Central Park trying to erase the experience and replace it with the New York City I had grown to love, but something was still missing. What was I searching for? What did I want? My husband there, holding my hand and our sex life back on track? A new lover to escape with regardless of how fleeting the tryst? Shopping? An art exhibit?

The manuscript of my next book hung from my shoulder like a pendulum on a clock reminding me why I had gone back to that city in the first place. I desperately tried to find a coffee shop or a private corner in a cheap, dingy restaurant. I wanted to write. I just wanted to write.

 

 

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Hotel Slummin

Posted by on Feb 8, 2013 in Life and Style | 0 comments

A proper life update is coming soon, I promise. Meanwhile, I’m hanging out at the BLVD Hotel, taking this morning to work on a book project that has nothing to do with Sex, Life, & Hannah…but is just as exciting. Have an amazing weekend lovers, xoxo, D:)

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You Keep Me Running

Posted by on Jan 28, 2013 in Life and Style | 0 comments

 


 

Your words alone
Could drive me to a thousand tears
All the same words
That kept me here for all the yearsI’m lost again, it’s happening
When you’re around I just go weak
All I wanna know, is it mutual
Then I never want to leave
Then I’m ready to run, ready to fall
Think I’m ready to lose it all
And I’m ready to run, ready to fall
Think I’m ready to lose it allKeep me running, you keep me running
Keep me running, you keep me runningYou keep me…

Ohh, would you hold my hand like the air was so gently here
Never give up, never give up
Ohh, would you pull me close so nobody knows we’re there
No one can find us

I’m lost again, it’s happening
When you’re around I just go weak
All I wanna know, is it mutual
Then I never want to leave
Then I’m ready to run, ready to fall
Think I’m ready to lose it all
And I’m ready to run, ready to fall
Think I’m ready to lose it all

Keep me running, you keep me running
Keep me running, you keep me running

You keep me…

And I’m lost again, it keeps happening
But when I’m around you, when I’m around you
I just go weak
All I wanna know, is it mutual
Am I’m ready to run, am I ready to fall
I think I’m ready just to lose it all

Keep me running, you keep me running
You keep me running
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Life is a Song worth Singing

Posted by on Dec 31, 2012 in Life and Style | 0 comments

 

Yesterday I looked back on my post from a year ago about my New Year’s resolutions for 2012 and then tweeted about how 2.5 out of 5 wasn’t bad. Truthfully, I feel it was a little half-assed (just like when I try to multi-task). So this year I’ve decided on one resolution. One goal that I can focus on and put my all into. One thing that can be like my guiding light for the entire year.

Of course committing to one thing can be tricky. I know. I’m married. 2.5 out of 5 is not an option; one foot in, one foot out is sure to lead to eventual dissatisfaction, so you have to be really sure. Especially when you’re standing at whatever altar you decide on proclaiming your intentions to whatever god you believe in. I mean, you don’t want to look back, on the cusp of 2014, and feel like you made a mistake. Or failed. So you have to pick something that you know you won’t want to back out of half way in. On the other hand, you should challenge yourself. What is a resolution if not a shift in your current way of living?

My initial reaction to picking one resolution was: I want to write and publish two books. That’s one more than last year. But that doesn’t seem grand enough. Writing and publishing does not necessarily equal financial success or the ability to quit your day job and finally only do something you really love. My friend Big T suggested the concept of choosing one word to set the tone for 2013, which I really like, although that almost seems too grand; not precise enough for me. My sister texted me her New Year’s resolution: Make more money doing fun stuff. I like that.

Make more money writing and publishing two BIG books. I stole the concept of “big” from the Choose One Word article because I have always liked the concept of go big or go home, even though I am guilty of often being on the brink of a win yet trying to make myself feel good about a draw. The diplomatic tennis player that can justify anything by saying: “Hey, I won one out of three sets, and came really close to winning the second set. You can’t beat yourself up over all those unforced errors”. Even though we all know that coming close to winning is not winning. But I digress.

Make more money writing and publishing two BIG books. There you have it. That’s my resolution for 2013.

On a completely separate topic (but turns out somewhat related), yesterday I also looked up the greatest disco songs of 1979 as per Casey Kasem. Remember him? I do. And I also feel like I totally missed my era (if only I had been born in ’56 instead of ’76). Anyway…this search led to other 70’s era disco searches, which led me to Teddy Pendergrass and his 1978 LP title and song: Life is a Song worth Singing. “Only you generate the power to decide what to do with your life”. Think about that lovelies as you decide on your New Year’s resolution for 2013.

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