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Creator of the Sex, Life, & Hannah book series and much more...

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To forgive, or not to forgive.

Posted by on Jan 31, 2012 in Relationships and Sex | 0 comments

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In dealing with the life experiences of friends, lovers, ex-lovers, and my sometimes charmingly bitter self, I’ve found that nothing puts grey hairs on the head (and a grudge in the heart) quite like infidelity. Even the suspicion of infidelity can take your relationship from we-just-made-love-on-the-virgin-white-Nassau-sand to you-can-keep-your-stinking-engagement-ring.

There are a myriad of reasons why cheating happens, and it’s rarely “because I hate you so much and just want you to have a hopelessly miserable life” (unless you’re vindictively trying to get back at your ex…for cheating on you). Most of the time, the psychology behind cheating is much more complex than that. Often, the reason has little or nothing to do with the person afflicted. Yet this particular wrongdoing feels about as personal as personal gets.

So, your partner spills. He’s cheated. In a past relationship, on you, or on his wife… with you. He says he’s sorry, he wasn’t himself that night. Or week. Or year. This experience forced him to take a step back and examine what he really wants. And what he really wants is you.

Do you believe him?

Respondents to the poll on Sex, Life, & Hannah were mostly on the same page: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Perhaps because we’ve all seen the consequences of affairs come to life in one form or another; in one of our relationships, a friends’ relationship, or our parents’ relationship.

Along with this obvious reaction however, many also commented that when it came to affairs it wasn’t as easy as kneeing him in the babymakers and calling it quits. Perhaps all your job-related travel finally got to him, or those long movie production schedules where you spent half the time in bed with a taller, handsomer, younger version of your boyfriend pushed him a little too far over the edge…or perhaps you’ve even been there done that yourself. You may have always said, “If I ever find out my partner’s cheated, I’m outta there,” but you also realize that the world is not black and white, and cheating can sometimes just… happen. Some of you even seem to think it’s an entire culture these days, especially in big cities — for better or for worse.

Are you really betraying yourself for giving him another chance?

Perhaps the most diplomatic answer is: The heart knows best. There’s no one right answer when it comes to cheating, so don’t be tortured by feminist role models or girl-power chick flicks. There’s only you, and him, in the heat of that difficult passage, and your ability to forgive — or not. And if you let him stay, only to find him cheating again, don’t sweat. It’s never too late to knee him in the babymakers.

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Amazon Initiative

Posted by on Jan 28, 2012 in Book News | 0 comments

Amazon Books

As I dive into the next round of edits for Book 3, the Summer Season, I need your help. Along with the new book is a whole new way of doing business for Sex, Life, & Hannah. I am no longer going to be wearing ten different hats. Mostly because I’ve learned a lot over the last six years about book publishing; what works and what doesn’t work, but also because I want to be able to focus on writing and getting the word out about the books, instead of printers, distribution, and shipping.

The launch of the third book in the SLH series is actually going to be the re-launch of the first two books as well through Amazon’s CreateSpace. This is going to make Sex, Life, & Hannah available globally, in print and digital format, and ease many of my day-to-day administrative woes.

What does all of this have to do with you helping me? As I start to carve out this new strategic relationship with Amazon I would love for you to post a review on the two Sex, Life, & Hannah books that are currently available on Amazon Kindle. How is this going to help me? It’s going to help boost Sex, Life, & Hannah in the search rankings on Amazon, hopefully boost my Kindle sales, and put me in a position where I can eventually become this girl and establish a publishing relationship with Amazon for future books.

Since 2007 many of you have emailed me your wonderful comments about Sex, Life, & Hannah, and I have tried to put them all up on my Praise page. It would mean so much to me if you could re-post these comments on Amazon. And if you’ve never commented, but always wanted to, or maybe never thought about it, please do! Many, many, thank yous.

Here are the links to my books on Amazon:

Sex, Life, & Hannah: Winter Season

Sex, Life, & Hannah: Spring Season

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