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Amazon Initiative

hannah — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 18:59:52 +0000

As I dive into the next round of edits for Book 3, the Summer Season, I need your help. Along with the new book is a whole new way of doing business for Sex, Life, & Hannah. I am no longer going to be wearing ten different hats. Mostly because I’ve learned a lot over the last six years about book publishing; what works and what doesn’t work, but also because I want to be able to focus on writing and getting the word out about the books, instead of printers, distribution, and shipping. The launch of the third book in the SLH series is actually going to be the re-launch of the first two books as well through Amazon’s CreateSpace. This is going to make Sex, Life, & Hannah available globally, in print and digital format, and ease many of my day-to-day administrative woes. ...

Do Not Be This Girl

hannah — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:07:36 +0000

OMG. Where do I even begin? Thank god my relationship is way more honest, thank god we never had a wedding, thank god my husband inspires me to follow my heart...thank god I still have a life. Thank god I am not this girl, even though I have had moments of being this girl, and I completely blame society, family, and media for this, because we are never taught to just enjoy relationships for what they are, which could be a hot two-month affair, or a baby-daddy arrangement, or twenty years of friendship. We’re only taught how to evaluate whether they’re ripe for marriage or not, and if not, to move on, because god help us if we get stuck in a relationship without the potential of reaching that one goal we should all be aiming for, because it’s the only achievement that is ever going to make us really…happy. ...

Christmas Week 2011

hannah — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 17:43:53 +0000

Photo credits: http://sexlifeandhannah.tumblr.com/

It's been a challenging week. Everything from the blow up over the offer on the house, to the continued drama over my sister's behavior and lifestyle, to the critical assessments over why me and hubbie aren't further ahead, to my parent's status quo bickering over everything. I just want to scream: Why can't we all just ever get along?!?!? But I'm not going to. I've done enough screaming already. Instead I'm going to do what I always do, pick up the pieces and move on. See the good instead of the bad, glass half full not empty kind of thing, and love my family, even though they can be extremely challenging at times. Unconditional love is a bitch sometimes. Merry Christmas.

Love Note

hannah — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 17:15:02 +0000

Darling, I suddenly feel the urge to let you know how deeply you have affected me. I can honestly look in the mirror and know that I am a forever changed man, and that much of the change has happened as a result of you. There's nothing I do in this world that hasn't been affected by you. Sometimes I swoon a little inside when I see a certain look on your face, or hear a certain tone in your voice. I never fail to notice. It's like music, or the warmth of the sun. Much of my day seems empty without that. Love, Hubbie

Candid Penis Talk

hannah — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 17:06:08 +0000

I may get a lot of heat for what I'm about to write in this post, because every article I've ever read on this subject writes to the contrary, but here goes: Penis size does matter, and 92% of you that answered my poll agree. ...

Love and Death

hannah — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:46:08 +0000

Nothing makes you think about life like death. A good friend of mine lost her boyfriend. He was the same age as my husband. The death was accidental, and tragic. Yet she said she could feel something coming. What if you could feel something coming? I'm not trying to be morbid, but what if you knew? Would you be doing anything differently? ...

In defense of Kim Kardashian

hannah — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 00:18:55 +0000

I’m going to play devil’s advocate for just a moment, and I’m not saying that Kim K does not deserve all the smack talk she’s gotten over her failed three-month marriage, but, as a woman that has loved and lost many times before, I do feel bad for her. ...

RULES! Part 16.

hannah — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 19:28:37 +0000

photo: http://lucyindaskywithdiamonds.com/tag/true-love/

98. Being less picky can lead to unexpected surprises. Like, that guy, that has bad hair, and no style, and doesn’t do anything sexy for a living, and hangs out with a circle of friends you could care less about...could be the best sex of your life, or even better, emotionally gets you like no man ever has. 99. Emotionally draining relationships only prevent you from being completely open to finding something new. Like, that guy, that’s really hot, and has a six-pack, and is (was) in a band, and gets invited to all those red-carpet events...but still doesn’t know where your clitoris is, after you’ve had multiple sit downs with him, and was out of town for your birthday, accidentally of course. 100. Except for business and kids, there is no reason for you to be friends with your ex. Do you still think there might be an inkling of a chance? Do you still think he’s going to change? Do you still think the friendship is going to fulfill you like the relationship never did? See #99. ...

The State of My Relationship

hannah — Wed, 19 Oct 2011 15:04:23 +0000

A few months ago, I posted on my SLH FB and Twitter: The state of your relationship is all about the state of your mind. Today, this statement holds more truth to me than it did back then. In fact, I feel this statement is at the very epicenter of every relationship; the deciding factor in what makes or breaks a relationship. When I first fell in love with hubbie, I couldn’t imagine my life without him. I was completely invested, ‘til death do us part, and we weren’t even married. Our love was strong, and life was bliss. I had found my man, and I didn't need anything else. Then the “stuff” started piling up; at first financial, and then sexual, and that’s when I stopped being invested in the same way. Suddenly I felt different about us, our future, and whether I even wanted one with hubbie anymore. I didn’t start “looking” per se, but I definitely started feeling open to meeting other people, and seeing what might happen…

Sealing your Love in Paris

hannah — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 23:18:33 +0000

In Paris, there is a bridge that crosses La Seine. It's filled with locks from one end to the other. Locks placed by lovers that want to symbolically seal their love for all eternity. It's good to see that so many people still believe in love...

A Literary Critique of the 3rd Book is Completed

hannah — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 15:10:27 +0000

Sex, Life, & Hannah editor Scott Frazelle discusses his one main concern of the third book: The Christian Knight character. Is Hannah really into him? He's not convinced.

What do you think? This excerpt from the new book, Sex Shop Adventures, is from Hannah and Christian's first date after a couple year of not seeing or talking to one another. Read more new book stuff here: http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/category/new-book-stuff/

Writing in my Journal.

hannah — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 20:28:06 +0000

I was just about to retire my latest journal. I thought it was the perfect timing. This journal has seen many days, and I’m leaving for Europe in five, which would be the perfect time to start writing in something fresh and new. So I took my journal down to the office, and opened the bag; THE bag that holds an entire lifetime of my thoughts and experiences, and placed the latest edition inside. And then I had this crazy memory. It was from when I was 17, and leading a somewhat double life because I had a fake ID. Because of course I couldn’t just use my fake ID to get into clubs and bars, I had to take it to a whole other level, as I do with most things in my life. So by day I was a 17-year-old girl trying to finish high school—early—because by then I’d decided I couldn’t stand anything or anybody affiliated with my peer group, and by night I was a 22-year-old woman teaching piano to save enough money to travel the world. Somewhat true. I was teaching piano when I wasn’t in school, and I did want to travel the world. And that’s when I met Warner, the Bartender, and went crazy...

Working on Chapter 25: Wedding Dress Confessions

hannah — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 19:42:17 +0000

A couple weeks ago I was working on Chapter 24. Driving home from that exercise I had a thought about Chapter 25, so I got out my new handy dandy Droid voice recorder and recorded this: http://sexlifeandhannah.tumblr.com/post/8435377004/working-on-chapter-25-wedding-dress-confessions Sorry for the link to a link, but I can't figure out how to insert an audio file into Wordpress...just yet. Anyway, this thought about how Hannah starts freaking about how she always thought she'd be married at 28, came out of answering this question: Am I crazy because I need more? Whether we realize it or not, there is a timeline that runs through our head; a timeline of expectations. And the closer we get to hitting each date, the crazier we get trying to achieve whatever goal we set for that date. ...

Am I crazy because I need more?

hannah — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 17:58:53 +0000

Q. I need some serious advice about this guy I have been dating for approximately two months. The first month was a little weird, because we met through a mutual friend, became instantly interested in each other, but I was dating someone else. We eventually went on two dates, and it became obvious to me that I should drop the other guy I was seeing. Then, as fate would have it, he went on vacation for 2 weeks and then I went on vacation for a week. So there were 3 forced weeks of not getting to see him, but I actually got to know him through phone calls, emails, and text messages while we were apart. When we finally reunited, things got REALLY hot and heavy, but over the last 4 weeks, I have noticed a pattern that is making me anxious. We will have the most amazing weekends; spend 3 days straight together. But come Monday, I won't really hear from him...until Thursday. And we'll make plans for our amazing Friday through Sunday bliss... but come Monday…it’s back to the same, and I get extremely anxious when there is little to no communication between us. I want to tell him that I need to communicate with him DAILY even if it's just talking on the phone for 5 minutes, but I don't want to come off as being crazy or needy. Is this normal dating practice? Is he playing games? Am I expecting too much, too fast? I really don't want to freak him out as it has technically only been 2 months (minus 3 weeks of vacation) of us seeing each other. Also, with this inquiry comes my next thing, which also makes me just as anxious: THE TALK. I want to ask him what he wants out of our relationship, and where it’s headed. I'm turning 28 in a few months and I don’t want to be wasting my time. So, I want to ask him all of those things, but I don't want to freak him out and ruin anything. Is it too soon? Should I wait? Do you think he'll freak out if I ask these things now? A. The first thing I want to say is this: Feel some level of security in the fact that you’re not “Monday through Thursday Girl”. The fact that he wants to spend his entire weekend with you, and isn’t brushing you off so that he can party with his buddies and see what else is out there, means he’s interested in you, in more than just a casual way...

Another Question.

hannah — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 15:03:28 +0000

This time, from my inbox. Q. How much time should two people in a relationship spend together? A. I think when you’re crazy in love with someone you want to spend every waking moment with them, but you pace yourself, because you don’t want to look obsessed. And you create silly rules like: since we’ve been dating for a couple months now I think it’s appropriate we spend one weekday night and one weekend night together. But it rarely works out that way. Things usually end up moving way too slow, and you get impatient, and break up, or they move way too fast, and suddenly you’re living together. ...