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Having an orgasm? It all comes down to figuring out what gets you off. For me it started with romance novels, by accident. I was twelve, and I wanted more grown-up reading material. I had no idea romance novels were so…dirty. But reading all those prolonged, and usually illicit, love scenes got my body excited, even though I couldn’t quite figure out how. At thirteen, to figure out the “how”, I decided to buy a Cosmopolitan magazine that promised to reveal all the secrets behind having an orgasm. To this day, just sitting back in a tub and letting the water run over my vagina, is good ol’ reliable. And vibrators, yes, but I didn't have one for a very long time. ...]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/having-an-orgasm/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/europe-or-bust/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/europe-or-bust/#comments Fri, 19 Aug 2011 20:29:27 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=3537

Me and hubbie are 10 days from departing on our amazing European vacation, and, I'm a bit nervous. Usually when I go on vacation I'm single, looking for romance, or with a new lover, high on romance. I've never been on vacation with a lover that I'm trying to re-ignite romance with. I have no doubt it will all be fabulous. I will be done with all my client work. I will be done with the final draft of the next Sex, Life, & Hannah book. Hell, we'll even have our taxes filed by then. So there will literally be NOTHING to do for three weeks except soak up everything London, Paris, Rome, and whatever small Italian town we decide on, have to offer. I honestly can not remember the last time I had NOTHING to do for three weeks. ...]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/europe-or-bust/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/rules-part-14/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/rules-part-14/#comments Fri, 20 May 2011 16:30:34 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=3351

86. If you want to just hit it and quit it. It's alright. Do it. Emperors have been doing it for years. 87. If you're going to drink Coke, drink the real thing. Not Diet Coke, not Cherry Coke, not Coke from a can, not Coke from a soda fountain, but Coke, in a bottle. 88. If you want to father a bastard lovechild...ahhh shit, I can't help you out with that one, but do read this: http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/why-do-we-always-have-to-be-upstanding/ ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/rules-part-14/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/keep-your-eye-on-the-prize/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/keep-your-eye-on-the-prize/#comments Mon, 16 May 2011 20:35:03 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=3339

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Saturday night, hubbie and me watched Julie & Julia. The movie where a 30-year-old woman—with not much going on in the career department—decides to start a blog chronicling her quest to finish 500-some Julia Child recipes in 365 days. Meltdowns ensue. Meanwhile, 50 years prior, we watch Julia Child battling similar career-lacking issues and her quest to get her love for food published into a book back when the world thought housewives wouldn’t want to read a voluminous account of how to make high-end French recipes. The notions are simple, but in the end, so inspiring and uplifting, especially when a few hours prior you are having a conversation with your hubbie that goes something like this: ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/keep-your-eye-on-the-prize/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/the-beauty-of-sexual-tension/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/the-beauty-of-sexual-tension/#comments Thu, 12 May 2011 16:08:07 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/the-tension-of-office-romances/ Last night, I was re-reading Chapter 14: Friends...with Benefits and came upon the beginning of one of my favorite storylines in the SLH book series, the interesting relationship that develops between Hannah and her new boss Phillip Ferrari. It made me miss the tension of office romances...and I've had a few:) It also put me on a quest this morning to find that scene out of 9 1/2 Weeks, that inspired me to write this scene: ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/the-beauty-of-sexual-tension/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/moms-thoughts-on-love-and-sex/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/moms-thoughts-on-love-and-sex/#comments Tue, 10 May 2011 15:56:45 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=3332

After everything I’ve observed my parents go through, I have to say I’m both impressed and a bit envious of the fact that they’ve continued to have this stellar sex life. “We’ve always been in love and excited about one another,” my mother said on Sunday, and not the first time. “Why do you think that is?” I asked, opening up another round of Session dark lager. ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/moms-thoughts-on-love-and-sex/feed/ 2 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/go-for-the-bloody-marys-and-sex/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/go-for-the-bloody-marys-and-sex/#comments Wed, 20 Apr 2011 17:56:18 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=3253

This past weekend, in Vegas, for a friend’s wedding, I demanded sex on my period, twice. Because bad timing is when you haven’t had sex with hubbie for like two weeks, and right as you’re about to go on a little vacay, you get your period. Sex on my period never used to bother me. But somewhere into year three of being together with hubbie I got particular, or lazy. “We can do it, when it’s less messy,” I started saying because the fear of never getting another shot, was gone. Commitment is a great thing, but it can also be a passion killer. When you’re dating, not living together, don’t always know where someone is, there’s this fear, at times big, at times small, but always present, that you may never get to see them again. This fear typically drives you to drink, but it also drives your libido to do things you thought you would only see in adult movies. You don’t want him to lose interest, you want him to remember that thing you do so well, he hasn’t said the “L” word yet, after all… ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/go-for-the-bloody-marys-and-sex/feed/ 1 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/g-spot-orgasms-and-vibrators/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/g-spot-orgasms-and-vibrators/#comments Thu, 24 Feb 2011 17:14:34 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/g-spot-orgasms-and-vibrators/

It’s still fucking hot, me and Christian are back to the naked, and the cold beer, and cigarettes. Even after all the Deirdre drama of tonight, we still can’t sleep. “Have you ever had a g-spot orgasm?” he asks putting another empty on my end table, and reaching into the cooler for a fresh one. I light up a fresh cigarette, and start laughing and almost choking. I tell him the only time I had the Super Big O was at Ireland’s. We were stoned, watching Californication, and salivating over David Duchovny, but really Hank Moody, because there was something very sexy about an emotionally fucked up, tortured artist; we women liked to “fix”. Hours later, I still couldn’t sleep, and in my half-baked state I walked over to Ireland’s side of the bed, and opened up the top drawer of her end table, where most women keep their sex toys. Sure enough, she had a vibrating gadget that looked to be the size we all imagined black NBA player’s cocks to be, and I took it out. I then walked into her bathroom and locked the door. ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/g-spot-orgasms-and-vibrators/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/the-screaming-o/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/the-screaming-o/#comments Fri, 07 Jan 2011 19:01:39 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=2965

December 22, 2010: “Lick my pussy. No, read me some porn. No, I’ll do the reading, you do the vibrating,” I pass hubbie the Screaming O. He turns it on, “holy shit, that’s a lot of rpm.” He was right. The Screaming O Super Powered Bullet was small, yet very powerful. And within moments I was asking him to hand the Screaming O back to me, so I could control the pressure. “Do you want me to do anything else?” I tell him to play with himself, until I’m ready… ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/the-screaming-o/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/hot-date-night/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/hot-date-night/#comments Thu, 06 Jan 2011 23:26:43 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=2959

PeeWee: Date night with the wife. What do I bring for the after party? Me: Lube. PeeWee: I can get her wet. Me: Titanium cock ring. PeeWee: What does that do? Me: Makes your dick look big, hard, and pretty. It’s mostly cock jewelry. PeeWee: Does it help stimulate the woman? ]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/hot-date-night/feed/ 0 http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/love-babies-and-menopause/ http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/love-babies-and-menopause/#comments Wed, 10 Nov 2010 19:48:57 +0000 hannah http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/?p=2721

Q. If we don't have babies with our partner, does our love eventually wane so that we can go fall in love with someone else to make babies? And what about when we are beyond our reproductive years, do we love in a different way? A. Interesting questions... I think that from a biological perspective, if we don't make babies with the person we're with, there's a good chance we're going to start lusting after somebody else to make babies with. I just read an interview with Joe Quirk, author of It's Not You, It's Biology, where he discusses the duel agenda of female biology. "In all animals where pair bonds are required to raise a baby to breeding age, females have this dual agenda in their emotions. They need really good genes and they need a really good nest. And the problem is, the best nest might come from your husband and the best genes might come from somebody else’s husband. And it's hard to get both in the same guy, so women have this dual agenda, they want to feel hot genes and they also want a committed nurturing guy to help raise the babies. And these are separable instincts." So even if you do start lusting after that somebody else to make babies with, you may still want the "nest guy" to stick around and raise that baby with you. Hello polygamy...or polyamory.]]> http://www.sexlifeandhannah.com/love-babies-and-menopause/feed/ 0