I met with a producer for this Reality TV show today that I’m now in the process of being considered for. The interview went well, I suppose. She wanted to know about the major story lines in my life right now. When I told her about my career quandaries, I could tell she wasn’t too interested. When I started talking about my internal quandaries, when it came to my personal life, her ears perked up.
I told her me and my husband were going through what some referred to as the “7-year-itch”, even though we hadn’t been together for seven years, and I’d never seen the movie; but I was familiar with the premise. You meet someone, fall madly in love, bliss takes over, until one day you wake up and realize things are…mundane.
63% of you said “yes”, and while I want to side with all you positive people, my personal experiences have proven otherwise. Maybe it was me, or maybe it was the other person, but every time I took this turn in a relationship, it eventually crumbled apart. The “break” created baggage, a baggage so large it inevitably lead to trust issues. As for passion…yes…I think a “break” can spark passion, ever heard of the “fighting and fucking” phenomenon? But it’s probably not the healthiest way to do it.
If you need a break, maybe what you really need is to move on.
Last night at the SLH Book Club meeting I was reading an excerpt from Chapter 10:
I always believed in “The One”: your one true love, your soul mate, your other half who completed you. I believed we were like penguins, who mated for life and died suddenly when the other didn’t return from a hunting mission. I didn’t believe that being with The One was always perfect: birds chirping, flowers blooming, and rays of sunshine; but I believed it lasted forever.
Walking out of that elevator at nearly two in the morning, I felt this great belief of mine shattering. Maybe there wasn’t such a thing as The One…or maybe I hadn’t met him yet.
After I finished, this girl said, “That’s why I don’t believe in marrying for love, I believe in marrying your best friend.”
She went on to talk about how she and her boyfriend were first friends, how she wasn’t even interested romantically in him, but how over time, she came to value and respect the friendship so much they became lovers, and now, she feels that logically it makes sense to marry him, “we can do nothing together, and it’s great.”
